Tuesday, 21 August 2012

When are you going to give that up then...

Now a question I am often asked, whether it be strangers or friends, family or neighbours is "when are you going to give that up then?"  They nod at my dirty little habit. And as I try to prepare an answer, often slightly embarrassed at being caught out they smile sympathetically

So whats my secret, am I smoking?.....no, am I drinking?.... no, I am still (whispers) breastfeeding........ beyond 6 months. Shock horror.

Now I don't blame all these questions obviously some people are genuinely interested. They may not have breastfed themselves or know very little about it. I didn't before I breastfed Elsie. I expected to give up once she was 6 months and certainly before she was able to ask for it. But I haven't. I love breastfeeding my little baby. I love the ease of it and not having to get up to make bottles. I love the closeness of it and the fact it has introduced me to co sleeping which I would not have looked into. I love not ever worrying about having forgotten to take food out with us.

I don't love being made to feel freakish for doing it, or me trying to reason with people about my parenting choice. Why do I feel I have to reason? I don't know. Perhaps because I don't see many of my friends breastfeeding? Perhaps because there are so many preconceived ideas that you only need to breastfeed for the first 6 months? 

I am often asked things like wouldn't you like your life back, and to be honest I think they mean "don't you want to go out with us and get slaughtered?" And a part of me realises that my life has changed and maybe sometimes I would like to feel a little more like the old me. But, no I don't want my life back. My life was not all about getting drunk and giving up breastfeeding and going out and getting drunk does not a good life make. My children make up the vast majority of 'my life'. I made the choice to have them and knew that I wanted them to be my life. I don't want to give that up do I?

Anyways, because I am fed up of being asked this question I went on the look for some lactivist t shirts or mugs. I then spotted this

I am actually really excited about receiving this. I can't wait for it to arrive. 

I don't want it to offend people who are genuinely interested. I do want it though so that I feel that little bit more comfortable and more confident with my choices. How can a phone cover do that? I don't know, but I will let you know if it works.


I have purchased this phone cover from www.lactivist.co.uk 

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